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African American Couple

How Does It Work?

In Couples Empowerment the therapeutic process is built of 3 Power-Steps (ARC) to create rapid and profound transformation in the lives of our clients: 

Awareness – The first Power-Step is an evaluation that is geared toward gaining awareness and insight into the current situation that brought you in. Here our goal is to understand past and present patterns, and to determine the root cause(s) of current challenges. It is during this step that we also clearly define the ultimate goal for our work together, as well as the evidence procedure, which will show us that our work has been a total success. The Awareness Power-Step is a crucial step that identifies both the problem and the solution. 

Release – The second Power-Step of couples therapy and marriage counseling utilizes NLP and elements of hypnotherapy to help clients let go of the baggage and clear the path toward obtaining their personal goals and desires. Here we release anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame and hurt, thereby liberating ourselves to live life from a positive perspective. We further let go of past limiting decisions, and old beliefs that no longer serve us. Our values are elicited, explored, reviewed and aligned to match our desired outcome.

Co-Creating – The third and final Power-Step is designed to provide new tools and resources to solidify the gains and establish the trajectory toward one's dreams. During this step we create a solid, sound, and clear pictures of your ideal life, and transform your internal unconscious perspectives to enable the new desired reality to emerge.

Below is an outline of couples therapy and marriage counseling course of work:

ARC – 3 Power Step Process: Assessment, Release, Co-Creation

Power-Step I – Assessment - Couple is seen together

  1. Welcome
  2. Completion of legally required consent forms
  3. Initial Interview:
  • What brings you in (what else…what else)
  • Ultimate therapy goals (What would INCREDIBLE couples therapy results look like?)
  • History of current relationship
    • How did you meet
    • What attracted you to each other
    • What was present then and absent now
    • What do you have now that you did not have then
    • When did the challenges appear
    • What have you attempted to solve it (what worked and what didn’t)
  • Personal developmental history
    • How would you describe your childhood
    • How would you described your relationships with mom, dad, caregivers
    • What was it like to grow up in your family
    • What was school and peers like
    • Sexual history
  • History of prior intimate relationships
    • How did you meet
    • What attracted you to each other
    • What were the challenges in the relationship
    • How did the relationship end
  1. Introduction to the Directives of The Unconscious Mind
  2. First Elicitation of Relationship Values
  3. Introduction to Time-Line Therapy (NLP)

Power-Step II – Release - Partners are seen separately

  1. Time-line elicitation
  2. Release of unresolved negative emotions (anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame, hurt)
  3.  Release of limiting beliefs (for ex. “I am inadequate”)
  4. Resolution of all remaining value conflicts that came up during the First Value Elicitation
  5. Second Elicitation of Relationship Values, conflicts, hierarchy
  6. Check Value Hierarchy to assure it is congruent with couples ideal relationship

Power-Step III – Co-create mutually desirable relationship -  Couple is seen together

  1. Evaluate current state of affairs and changes
  2. Address relational objectives: power dynamics, communication patterns, etc
  3. Create mutual relationship vision
  4. Establish SMART future relationship goals
  5. Time line therapy to place the relationship goals into the future in order to propel the relationship in the direction of the mutually established goals.